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Don't play the blame game

Is it just me, or does it seem like more and more people are refusing to accept responsibility for their actions?

A burglar breaks into someone’s home, is injured by tripping over a toy on the floor, sues the homeowner for his injuries — and wins.

A person driving a vehicle spills hot coffee on their lap, causes an accident, sues the place from where the coffee was purchased because the coffee was too hot — and wins.

These days, the object is to blame the other person; accept no responsibility for your decisions.

God has created everyone with the ability to make choices. But many people forget that actions have consequences.

FREE WILL

Whenever we make choices that go against God’s wishes and desires, we can only blame ourselves.

We can't say, “So-and-so made me do it," nor can we say, “The devil made me do it,” because a person has free will.  

People or circumstances may lead you to a particular situation that requires a difficult choice, but you make the final choice, one way or the other.

Sometimes, we are victims of other people’s actions toward us. This may explain certain behaviors or feelings in some people, but it does not excuse it.

Each person is ultimately responsible for his or her own decisions. Granted, there are extreme situations. But for the vast majority of us, the choice rests with each one of us alone.

GROW AS A PERSON

Exercising your free will can bring about various lessons.

Many are very pleasant lessons — like when you choose wisely and bring about a positive outcome.

Some lessons are very painful — like when you choose poorly and bring about a negative outcome.

It is important to remember, when you accept responsibility for your own actions, you will ultimately grow into a better person. The reason for caving in to temptation will eventually dissipate, and resisting temptations will become easier over time.

Don’t play the blame game.

Don’t blame God.

Don’t pass the buck to someone else.

Accept responsibility for your own actions.

Better yet, use your free will to follow the ways of God in the first place, and you will avoid a whole mess of messes.

The Rev. Mark Broadhead is Laurel Hill Presbyterian Church and First Presbyterian Church of Crestview’s pastor.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: Don't play the blame game

SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: Football players need tackling practice

The California state legislature passed a bill last week limiting high school football teams to three hours a week of seasonal tackling practice.

The law — which allows for 90-minute sessions per week — will go into effect in 2015.

While I applaud California lawmakers for wanting to protect the players, I think the law is misguided and not well thought out.

Legendary Green Bay Packers Coach Vince Lombardi was famous for saying, among other things, “Dancing is a contact sport. Football is a hitting sport.”

The fact is, football is more of a collision sport than a hitting sport.

Richard Pickens, a former University of Tennessee fullback from the 1960s, died last week from complications associated with frontal lobe dementia and Alzheimer’s disease. It was estimated that Pickens, who led the Southeastern Conference in rushing in 1968, had more than 20 concussions while playing high school and college football.

As frightening as Pickens’ story is, he last played football more than 45 years ago, when ball carriers and tacklers led with their heads. Rule changes now often penalize players for using their heads as battering rams.

And while rules have changed, today's players are bigger, stronger and faster than their predecessors. More size, strength and speed will lead to bigger hits with an increased chance for injuries on the practice field and in games.

Yes, the force of some collisions on a football field can be life threatening, but taking away time for tackling practice isn’t going to solve the problem. I believe, if anything, the limited time devoted to tackling will increase the risk for injuries.

Most high school coaches are former high school, college or, in some cases, professional football players. These men are highly qualified to teach proper techniques of keeping.

Granted, some poor coaches don’t teach the game's fundamentals, including tackling in a way that is safe for both the player making the tackle and the one getting tackled.

A few years ago I witnessed first-hand what could have been a devastating hit when a defender led with his helmet's crown into the head of a player already on his knees.

The player making the hit might very well have been caught up in the moment's excitement. But he also might have been coached that way. The truth is only the player and his coaches knew if it was poor coaching or an excited kid trying to make a play.

I don’t think a team needs to hit two or three hours a day to learn proper tackling form, but three hours a week is a little lacking when trying to teach kids who have never played the game the right way to tackle.

Some steps can be taken to make football a safer game. But limiting practice time on one the most important fundamentals of the game isn’t a step in the right direction.

Randy Dickson is the Crestview News Bulletin’s sports editor. Email him at randyd@crestviewbulletin.com, tweet him @BigRandle, or call 682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: Football players need tackling practice

FROM THE PULPIT: Think about it — our prayers have already been answered

As children, my three siblings and I would complain to our mother that we needed a dishwasher.

Our mother would respond, “I already have four dishwashers!”

It took us a while to realize what she meant, but as we stood at the kitchen sink — one of us washing the dishes and the other three drying them — we got it. And groaned.

That wasn’t the answer we wanted to hear, but it is the answer we got. And, as I look back on it, the answer was perfectly logical.  The need for a dishwasher had already been met – four times over.

When it comes to God answering prayers, our prayers may have already been answered before we even lift them.

For example, people will look at what is happening in the world and ask, “Why doesn’t God do something?” Why doesn’t God do something to feed those starving children in Africa, to intervene and stop bloodshed in the Middle East, to end the spread of AIDS and other dreaded diseases, to alleviate pain and suffering?

All good questions for God. And I can hear his answer: "I have already put things into place to end all those things."

After all, hunger can end when people who produce food are willing to look beyond their bottom line and look at human need. God provides plenty of food on this earth for everyone – if it would only be shared.

Bloodshed in the Middle East – and elsewhere – will cease when people everywhere realize that God has created everyone as equals, and there are plenty of resources for everyone – if we would only willingly share.

The spread of diseases will end when shared resources from around the world provide healthier living environments and better personal relationships.

No, I am not a communist or a socialist. I am one who hears how the gospel condemns selfish ambition, greed, hoarding wealth and cheating others. I am one who hears the gospel of Jesus Christ and the scripture reveal God’s call to care for one another – even at the expense of oneself.

You see, God has already answered our questions and our prayers. The question is, are people willing to do what is necessary to be the instruments of God’s answer?

Jesus said in a parable: “I was hungry and you fed me, I was thirsty and you gave me a drink, I was homeless and you gave me a room, I was shivering and you gave me clothes, I was sick and you stopped to visit, I was in prison and you came to me."

Then those ‘sheep’ are going to say, "Master, what are you talking about? When did we ever see you hungry and feed you, thirsty and give you a drink? And when did we ever see you sick or in prison and come to you?" Then the King will say, "I’m telling the solemn truth: Whenever you did one of these things to someone overlooked or ignored, that was me – you did it to me.”

The Rev. Mark Broadhead is Laurel Hill Presbyterian Church and First Presbyterian Church of Crestview’s pastor.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FROM THE PULPIT: Think about it — our prayers have already been answered

SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: High school football, a special game

In less than two weeks, high school football teams across Florida officially open fall practice.

Friday nights soon will be filled with the best of what makes high school football, I believe, the greatest sport in the world.

High school is the final stopping point for most football players. A 5-foot-9, 175-pound kid can still play the line or linebacker and be successful in high school. That same kid, if fast enough, might have a chance to play receiver or defensive back at the college level.

The high school linebacker who runs the 40-yard dash in 4.9 or 5.0 seconds might not get a second look at the next level, but can excel against his high school peers.

Sometimes we are lulled into false expectations for the kids we see star on Friday night. We want to believe the running back who rips off 60-yard touchdown runs against Milton or Northview is capable of playing in the Atlantic Coast or Southeastern Conference.

The truth is that greatness in high school — even record-setting greatness — doesn’t always translate into a college football career.

I’ve seen a number of great players in my 40-plus years of following high school football.

In the early 1970s Walton had a tailback, Mitzi Jackson, who went on to play at Auburn. Jackson was a special player in high school and a solid college player, but he probably came up short of people's expectations when he graduated from high school.

Marianna had a big defensive tackle, Wylie Barnes, who was a high school All-American in 1975 and signed with Alabama. Barnes was 6-4, 280, but he never impressed me. One of my Gulf Breeze teammates who weighed 145 pounds manhandled the big man.

I wasn’t surprised that Barnes was a bust at Alabama.

Eighteen years ago, while working at a Lenoir City, Tenn., newspaper, I covered Travis Adams, a tailback. Adams set the state single-season record for rushing: right at 3,000 yards. He seemed to have enough size and speed to play big-time college football, but it never happened.

The University of Tennessee offered Adams an opportunity to join the Vols as a preferred walk-on. Adams decided to attend Austin Peay University on a full scholarship. He lasted one year at Austin Peay before returning home to marry his high school sweetheart and go to work for his father’s roofing company.

An elite few transcend the norm and go on and star at the college and professional levels.

Back in the fall of 1984, my dad and I attended the Gulf Breeze-Escambia game. Escambia had a little sophomore running back who torched the Dolphins for something like 200 yards and three or four touchdowns, and he sat out most of the second half.

As we were leaving the stadium at Escambia, I turned to Dad and said, “I don’t know who that kid from Escambia is, but he’s going to be a great one.”

That kid — Emmitt Smith — was a high school All-American, a college All-American at Florida and the leading rusher in National Football League history.

Randy Dickson is the Crestview News Bulletin’s sports editor. Email him at randyd@crestviewbulletin.com, tweet him @BigRandle, or call 682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: High school football, a special game

FROM THE PULPIT: In difficult times, God never leaves your side

A nationally known pastor talks about his experience with cancer: namely, how the human spirit struggled with facing an uncertain future.

In addition, he talks about how he saw the face of God in every person who aided his treatment process. He saw God in supportive family and friends' faces.

What is it to have faith such as that? What is it to be able to look at challenges and difficulties; not become so distraught that it becomes debilitating?

Have you ever recognized God’s presence in those who helped you through a particularly difficult period?

To be able to find God like that; to be assured, as never before, that all will be well — even if the result is death — is part of having a strong faith. God has promised through Jesus Christ to never abandon us.

His promise is, “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overwhelm you; when you walk through fire you shall not be burned, and the flame shall not consume you.”

God means this symbolically, not literally. When difficulties and challenges come — and they will — he sees us through. We may be water-logged, and we might be singed, but we will emerge on the other side alive and intact.

Why? Because, God says, “…you are precious in my sight, and honored, and I love you…”

Look for God’s face in the people who help you in times of difficulty.

You may be pleasantly surprised that God lives up to his promise of never leaving your side.

The Rev. Mark Broadhead is Laurel Hill Presbyterian Church and First Presbyterian Church of Crestview’s pastor.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FROM THE PULPIT: In difficult times, God never leaves your side

SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: Tim Hatten gets it

Tim Hatten has proven to be a breath of fresh air in the 16 months since he arrived at Crestview High School to take the job as head football coach and athletic director.

In an age when too many high school football coaches and athletic directors are focused on all football, all the time, Hatten takes a more relaxed and realistic approach to football and sports.

“We’ve got to the point where we are a specialized society and kids focus on one sport and say, 'Let’s do this,'” he said. “And only 1 percent of the kids, maybe, are going to play pro ball. So why are we tailoring what we do for the 1 percent?

“What about the well-rounded kid that plays four or five sports. I love four or five-sport lettermen. I think they are better rounded people for the community and the workforce because 99 percent of the people are going to be in the workforce, not NFL football players.”

Hatten is thankful that his high school coaches allowed him to participate in baseball, basketball football and track.

He quickly points out that it’s not just football that has pigeonholed many young men and women into becoming one-sport athletes.

Too many sports, with an emphasis on travel ball, have become year-round activities, he says. Even though football doesn’t have travel ball, many coaches, especially at the high school level, tend to force talented athletes into committing to only football.

Hatten, like most coaches, has a summer program. But don’t expect him to put the Bulldogs through a high school version of bootcamp as Crestview prepares for preseason camp on Aug. 4.

“We are going to get our summer workouts in,” he said. “But we are going to be in a relaxed atmosphere and we are going to be in a teaching atmosphere. We are not going to grind them out.”

Hatten’s philosophies about specialized athletes might differ from many other coaches, but that in no way means he lacks a burning desire to win and bring the Bulldogs success.

Tim Hatten sees the big picture beyond the games played on Friday night at Jack Foster Stadium.

He understands that high school students need to enjoy a full and well-rounded high school experience as they enjoy just being kids.

Randy Dickson is the Crestview News Bulletin’s sports editor. Email him at randyd@crestviewbulletin.com, tweet him @BigRandle, or call 682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: Tim Hatten gets it

FROM THE PULPIT: Be real — warts and all — as Christ's disciple

Many computer programs allow people to alter photographs in most any way imaginable. Faces can be made to look older or younger.  Blemishes can be removed.  Hair color can be changed.

We can become anyone we choose, although the portrayal may not be quite truthful.

As a disciple of Jesus Christ, do you present a façade of being all put together, like your life is free from troubles and worries?

If you “Photoshop” your Christian image into one of near perfection, I would venture to say you are doing yourself, other people around you, and our Lord a grave disservice.

To not acknowledge challenges and difficulties in your life does you a disservice because it presents an untruthful picture of who you really are. 

To not acknowledge challenges and difficulties in your life does others a disservice because it makes you unapproachable to those who do have those things. 

To not acknowledge challenges and difficulties in your life does a disservice to our Lord because it presents a false picture of what our Lord does in life. Our Lord does not alter a person’s life so problems never come.  He helps people get through them. 

We Christians are called to an authentic faith – and that includes appropriately sharing our weaknesses, challenges and difficulties.

Be sure to be real.  Be honest.  Be truthful.  Warts and all. 

Then, give God the glory through Jesus Christ our Lord.

The Rev. Mark Broadhead is Laurel Hill Presbyterian Church and First Presbyterian Church of Crestview’s pastor.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FROM THE PULPIT: Be real — warts and all — as Christ's disciple

SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: All kids should learn to fish

I returned home from vacation Saturday only slightly worse from the wear of sleeping on my mom’s sleeper sofa for two weeks.

Vacations these days mean spending as much time as possible with Mom, who celebrated her 82nd birthday June 26.

We had hoped to make a trip to the mountains, but her health didn’t allow us to travel the 500-plus miles from DeLand to Tennessee or North Carolina.

We did manage to take a trip to Port Canaveral with my 8-year-old great-nephew, Connor.

'WORTH THE WAIT'

The trip's purpose was to take Connor to a free fishing clinic offered by the Florida Fish and Wildlife Conservation Commission and sponsored, in part, by Federal Aid in Sport Fish Restoration.

I learned about the clinic through an email I received from the FWC.

I really didn’t know what to expect from the clinic. We arrived at the designated terminal about 10 a.m. to be greeted by a line long enough to make Disney’s Magic Kingdom proud.

But the day was about Connor and the opportunity for him to learn how to fish.

It took about 90 minutes for us to make it to the terminal, where stations were set up to teach children knot tying, the basics on bait and tackle, casting and a touch tank.

After completing the final station, each child was given a free rod and reel along with bait to try their hand at fishing.

The look on Connor’s face told me it was well worth the wait. It was his first time to put a line in the water and he quickly figured out the proper casting techniques.

REMINISCING

Unfortunately, Connor didn’t catch anything that day, and circumstances prevented me from taking him fishing another time during my visit.

Watching Connor, I was reminded of my first fishing experience with an old cane pole on the banks of Grenada Lake in north Mississippi.

 I was about 4 years old at the time, and I was fishing with my grandparents.

I don’t remember if I caught anything, but I do remember being stung by a big old red wasp as I was putting some bait minnows back in the lake.

ENJOYABLE HOBBY

These days, I don’t do much fresh water fishing. I prefer to go for a flounder or a sea trout off a pier or dock in Fort Walton Beach or Navarre.

As I’ve mentioned before, my dad wasn’t a fisherman, but he did have friends that instructed me on the basics of the sport that has given me a lifetime of enjoyment.

A tried-and-true saying goes, “Give a man a fish and you feed him once. Teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime.”

I believe that statement is only partially true. Yes, if you teach a person to fish they will have a means for feeding themselves and their family.

But if you teach them to fish they also will have a hobby to enjoy in the great outdoors the rest of their lives.

Randy Dickson is the Crestview News Bulletin’s sports editor. Email him at randyd@crestviewbulletin.com, tweet him @BigRandle, or call 682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: All kids should learn to fish

FROM THE PULPIT: Our nation will survive if it stays with God

This week our nation celebrates its 238th birthday. Quite a milestone!  Happy birthday, America! Long may you live.

I love our nation. There is wealth, economic stability (for the most part) and a plethora of opportunities for pursuing happiness.

However, I fear for its future. When one looks at the great nations of this world throughout the course of history, what happened to them? Eventually, they all crumbled.

Thousands of years ago, the Mesopotamians were a considerable force, but they succumbed to other nations. 

The Hebrew people were strong at one point, but fell victim to other national powers; one of them being the Roman Empire.

The Roman empire was a great force with which to be reckoned.  But in time, that empire fell.

The Mesopotamian leadership became drunk with power, affluence, wealth and privilege. This mindset trickled down to the average citizen. With that sense of privilege came arrogance. With arrogance came laziness. And with laziness came defeat.

The same thing happened with Rome.

With the Hebrew people it was slightly different. When they turned their backs on God, they became vulnerable to the powers of this world.

Two hundred thirty-eight years ago, men and women of what is now the United States of America fought with their lives to gain freedom from an oppressive government. That independence was won after much bloodshed. 

I fear our nation will one day go the way of other great world powers such as ancient Rome.

I fear we are becoming a nation that feels it is privileged.

I fear the sense of arrogance among an increasing number of leaders and persons will continue to trickle down to the average citizen. 

I fear that arrogance will change to laziness. 

I fear laziness will completely take over. 

I fear haughtiness will creep in and our nation will say, “Nothing bad will ever happen to us!” 

And I fear that will be the end of this great nation of ours.

Power corrupts. Absolute power corrupts absolutely.

The Bible says, “Blessed is the nation whose God is the Lord.” When our nation returns to God and seeks forgiveness for its arrogance, selfishness, pettiness, pride, greed, gluttony and immorality, I believe God’s blessing will pour forth in new, exciting ways that have not yet been enjoyed.

When the Hebrew people realized their error of turning their backs on God then returned to him, his blessings flowed to them once again. History points this out. 

History does repeat itself — whether for good or for ill.

Let us pray that our nation's people will return to God, so his blessings will flow to us, and we will have countless birthday celebrations for the United States of America!

The Rev. Mark Broadhead is Laurel Hill Presbyterian Church and First Presbyterian Church of Crestview’s pastor.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FROM THE PULPIT: Our nation will survive if it stays with God

SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: Remember athletes who served for our freedoms

Friday, we celebrate our nation’s 238th birthday — and what a 238 years it has been.

I studied communications, but also took as many history electives as I could in college for love of the subject.

One of my favorite classes was History of American Sports. Yes, I made an A in the class. And no, the class wasn’t all about baseball, football and basketball; but there was a healthy dose of those sports, too.

Long before Babe Ruth hit his first home run for the Boston Red Sox, or his last home run for the Boston Braves, or Knute Rockne challenged Notre Dame's football team to win one for the Gipper, sports dominated America's landscape.

Many of those sports — such as hunting and horseback riding — were used in everyday life. We Americans have always wanted to test our skills against the best to see how we measure up.

Before Abraham Lincoln became our nation’s 16th president, he was one of the best wrestlers in the Midwest. Abe wasn’t bad at splitting logs, either.

Many of our presidents were college athletes.

Dwight Eisenhower played football and baseball at West Point before having his athletic career cut short trying to tackle Jim Thorpe. Gerald Ford was a star center at Michigan. George H.W. Bush was captain of the Yale baseball team. John Kennedy was a swimmer at Harvard. Richard Nixon and Ronald Reagan played small college football as well. And Reagan, who played the Gipper in the 1940 biopic "Knute Rockne, All American," also was a sportscaster before moving to acting and then politics.

Our sports heroes and our military heroes often are the same people. The Baseball Hall of Fame is filled with men who sacrificed years of their careers to defend the United States during World War II.

Boston Red Sox left fielder Ted Williams was a fighter pilot in World War II and the Korean Conflict. Yogi Berra, the great New York Yankee catcher, worked on a rocket launching boat during the D-Day invasion of Normandy on June 6, 1944. Cleveland Indian pitching great Bob Feller served as a gunner’s captain on the Battleship Alabama.

Dallas Cowboys Coach Tom Landry, an Army Air Corps pilot, flew 30 missions over Europe in a B-17. Chad Hennings, a Cowboys defensive lineman in the 1990s, is an Air Force Academy graduate who flew fighter jets before retiring from the military. Rocky Bleier almost lost his life in Vietnam, but came back to start at halfback on the great Pittsburgh Steeler teams of the 1970s.

Roger Staubach, who won the 1963 Heisman Trophy while playing quarterback at the Naval Academy, led the Dallas Cowboys to their first two Super Bowl wins.

David Robinson was 6-foot-8 when he entered the Naval Academy — 7-foot-1 when he graduated — and was the top pick in the 1987 National Basketball Association draft. He led the Spurs to two NBA championships.

Yes, many other brave men and women have entertained us on the athletic fields and served on the battlefield. Some, such as former Arizona Cardinal defensive back Pat Tillman, gave the ultimate sacrifice for our freedom.

This weekend, as you celebrate all that is America, take time to remember the people behind the games who gave of themselves for our freedom.

Randy Dickson is the Crestview News Bulletin’s sports editor. Email him at randyd@crestviewbulletin.com, tweet him @BigRandle, or call 682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: SIDELINE OBSERVATIONS: Remember athletes who served for our freedoms

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