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Woman living with incurable cancer offers 4 suggestions

Shy about asking, “What’s the etiquette for supporting my loved one, friend or colleague in their battle against cancer?” many people simply avoid the question altogether – and offer nothing.

“It’s okay to wonder, and it’s okay to ask. Be direct!” says Jane Schwartzberg, who has been battling stage 4 metastatic cancer for several years. She’s the co-author with Marcy Tolkoff Levy of “Naked Jane Bares All,” which shares her story with candor and humor.

Jane was a 31-year-old newlywed when she was first diagnosed with breast cancer. She underwent treatment and eventually was declared cancer free. She moved on with her life, giving birth to two children and launching a technology company. Then, when she was 42, the cancer returned. She’s now 45.

“I’m a fighter, and the support I’ve received from my family and friends has given me  an immeasurable amount of strength, without which I don’t know what I would do,” Schwartzberg says.

What are some suggestions for providing support? She offers these:

•  Do it without any expectations or requirements for a response.“I’m often asked, ‘What can I do to help?’ ” she says. “What I’ve suggested: Be in my life at my pace, let me take the lead; make your presence, availability and support known, but do it without any expectations or requirements for a response.”

•  Embrace their big dream, even if it doesn’t sound realistic.During a very low point, Schwartzberg was asked by a friend: If you could have anything, swinging for the fences, what would help you get out of this pit? Without skipping a beat, she answered, “I want to take [comedian] Larry David out to lunch.” As impossible as it seemed, her friend encouraged her to write to the co-creator of “Seinfeld” — and he accepted.

“As terrible as having terminal cancer is, there is that undeniable quality of embracing every moment, including asking your heroes out to lunch,” Schwartzberg says. “Cancer brings out the boldness in people, which may entail a dream vacation to Hawaii. Don’t be afraid to embrace their wishes.”

•  Don’t hesitate to say, “You look beautiful,” when health has returned. After her chemotherapy treatments ended, Jane slowly started looking like her old self – healthy Jane, not cancer Jane. Part of reengaging with life is caring about the superficial things, at least to some extent. On the unforgettable day she met Larry David, the maître d had beforehand told her that she looked beautiful, to which Jane responded, “You have no idea how much I appreciate that.”

•  Don’t sugarcoat it. “If you want to really infuriate me, you’ll tell me that this whole mess is beshert, Yiddish for ‘meant to be’ – that it’s all part of a plan from a higher power,” she says. “Maybe terminal cancer is part of some crazy plan, but I promise you that these are the last things I want to hear from anyone.”

Don’t sugarcoat or try to put a positive spin on what’s going on – in fact, it’s more of a comfort to Jane when others acknowledge that her situation stinks and that she is looking at a life that’s far different from, and likely to be shorter than, anything she’d imagined.  

Jane Schwartzberg, 45, is a financial services executive and founder and former CEO of a start-up technology company.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: Woman living with incurable cancer offers 4 suggestions

FINANCIAL FOCUS: Five scary investment moves

Whether you have young children or not, you’re probably well aware that Halloween is almost here. However, despite the plethora of skeletons and ghosts you might see floating around this week, you probably don’t have much to fear (except, possibly, running out of candy). But in real life, some things genuinely are frightening — such as “scary” investment moves.

Of course, investing, by its very nature, is not a risk-free endeavor. Ideally, though, these risks are also accompanied by the possibility of reward. Nonetheless, some investment moves carry very little in the way of “upside” potential and should be avoided. Here are a few to consider:

• Not investing. The scariest investment move you can make is to not invest at all — because if you don’t invest, you are highly unlikely to achieve a comfortable retirement or meet any other important financial goals. In a recent survey conducted by the National Council on Aging and other groups, 45 percent of the respondents who were 60 or older said they wished they had saved more money, and almost one-third said they wished they had made better investments. So make investing a priority — and choose some investments that have the potential to provide you with the growth you’ll need to meet your objectives.

• Overreacting to “scary” headlines — The financial markets like stability, not uncertainty. So the next time you see some news about domestic political squabbles or unsettling geopolitical events, such as conflicts in foreign lands, don’t be surprised if you see a drop, perhaps a sizable one, in the Dow Jones Industrial Average and other market indices. But these declines are usually short-lived. Of course, the markets do not exist in isolation — they can and will be affected by what’s happening in the world. Yet, over the longer term, market movements are mostly governed by mundane, non-headline-grabbing factors, such as corporate earnings, interest rate movements, personal income levels, and so on. Here’s the point: Don’t overreact to those scary headlines, or even to short-term market drops. Instead, focus on the fundamentals driving your investments — and maintain a long-term perspective.

• Chasing hot investments — You can receive tips on “hot” investments from multiple sources: television, the Internet, your friends, your relatives — the list goes on and on. But by the time you get to these investments, they may already have cooled off — and, in any case, may not be appropriate for your needs. Stick with investments that offer good prospects and are suitable for your risk tolerance.

• Failing to diversify — When it comes to investing, “too much of a good thing” is a relevant term. If your portfolio is dominated by one type of asset class, such as aggressive growth stocks, and we experience a downturn that is particularly hard on those stocks, you could face sizable losses. But if you spread your investment dollars among growth stocks, international stocks, bonds, government securities and certificates of deposit (CDs), you can lessen the impact of a market drop. Keep in mind, though, that while diversification can reduce the effects of volatility, it can’t guarantee a profit or prevent losses.

Halloween is over quickly. But scary investment moves can have a lasting effect — so stay away from them.

Joe Faulk is a Crestview financial adviser.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FINANCIAL FOCUS: Five scary investment moves

FINANCIAL FOCUS: Open enrollment is a great time to review your retirement plan

If you work for a medium to large company, you may now be entering the “open enrollment” period — that time of year when you get to make changes to your employee benefits.

Your benefit package can be a big piece of your overall financial picture, so you’ll want to make the right moves — especially regarding your employer-sponsored retirement plan.

Take a close look at your 401(k) or similar plan, such as a 403(b), if you work for a school or a nonprofit group, or a 457(b), if you work for a state or local government. And keep these possible moves in mind:

•Boost your contributions. If your salary has gone up over the past year, or if you just think you have a reasonable “cushion” in your disposable income, boost your contributions to your employer-sponsored retirement plan.

Even if you can’t afford to contribute the maximum amount — which, in 2014, is $17,500, or $23,000 if you’re 50 or older — to your 401(k) or similar plan, try to put in as much as you can afford. Remember the key benefits of these plans: Your money can grow tax deferred and your contributions can lower your annual taxable income. (Keep in mind, though, that you will eventually be taxed on your withdrawals, and any withdrawals you take before you reach 59½ may be subject to a 10 percent IRS penalty.)

•Don’t miss the match. Try to take full advantage of your employer’s matching contribution, if one is offered. Your employer may match 50 percent of employee contributions, up to the first 6 percent of your salary. So if you’re only deferring 3 percent of your income, you are missing half the match — or leaving money “on the table,” so to speak. 

•Rebalance, if necessary. You may be able to change the investment mix of your employer-sponsored retirement plan throughout the year, but you might find that the best time to review your holdings and rebalance your portfolio is during open enrollment, when you’re reviewing all your benefit options.

Try to determine if your investment allocation is still appropriate for your needs or if you own some investments that are chronically underperforming. And always keep in mind the need to diversify.

Try to spread your money around a variety of investments within your plan, with the exact percentages of each investment depending on your goals, risk tolerance and time horizon. As you near retirement, you may need to lower your overall risk level, but even at this stage of your career, you’ll benefit from a diversified portfolio.

While diversification can’t guarantee a profit or protect against loss, it can help reduce the impact of volatility on your holdings.

•Review your beneficiary designations. Your retirement plan’s beneficiary designations are important and, in fact, can even supersede the wishes you express in your will. So if you experience changes in your life — marriage, remarriage, a birth or an adoption, for instance — you’ll need to update the beneficiary designations on your 401(k) or similar plan. It won’t take much time today — and it can help prevent a lot of trouble tomorrow.

You work hard for the money that goes into your retirement plan — so make sure your plan is working hard for you.

Joe Faulk is a Crestview financial adviser.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FINANCIAL FOCUS: Open enrollment is a great time to review your retirement plan

Pilgrim Rest Baptist Church to add new church building due to attendance growth

From the left, construction project manager Heath Oglesby, building committee chairman Howard Carr, Coastal Bank representative Karen Donaldson and Rev. Geoff Prows celebrate the planned construction of a new church building with a ground-breaking ceremony for Pilgrim Rest Baptist Church on Oct.12. The Baker church is adding a new sanctuary and classrooms in order to accommodate attendance growth.

BAKER — With an increasing church attendance, Pilgrim Rest Baptist Church is adding a new church building.

The church recently broke ground for a new 12,000-square-foot facility, which will include a new sanctuary that can seat 700 and additional rooms for the church’s preschool and nursery programs.

Rev. Geoff Prows said construction is expected to begin in late November.

With the sanctuary’s current seating capacity of 220, Pilgrim Rest currently has two Sunday morning services to accommodate church members, he said.

Prows said the goal is to have the building project complete by July. Upon completion, Prows hopes to go back to one Sunday morning worship service.

Discussion of building a new sanctuary has been in development prior to Prows' arrival in December of last year. 

In August, the church’s congregation unanimously voted to move forward with constructing the new building.  

“We are not only having issues (with space) for Sunday School, we are also having issues in our Sunday worship service, which are good problems to have, but long term you have to have a plan for it,” Prows said.

To put the church’s growth into perspective, Prows said 72 members joined the church last year and 75 members joined this year.

The second Sunday worship service at 11 a.m. averages 300, he said.

Should the church continue to grow beyond the 700 seating capacity, the building’s layout allows for the new sanctuary's expansion with a seating capacity of 1,400 and additional classroom space.

In addition to crediting Pilgrim Rest’s congregation and children and youth ministries for the continued growth, Prows said it is the church’s community presence that makes it unique.

“A lot of it is ‘word of mouth’…this is the most giving church in regards to helping people in need,” Prows said.  “It’s great to see God work in our community.”

Email News Bulletin Staff Writer Matthew Brown, follow him on Twitter or call 850-682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: Pilgrim Rest Baptist Church to add new church building due to attendance growth

Community Health Fair combines important info with fun (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

Under the watchful eye of her mother, Jenni Perkins, Avery Perkins-Ward, 2, pats the nose of an Okaloosa County Sheriff's Office Posse horse.

CRESTVIEW — Residents combined health information with a good time Saturday morning at the annual Crestview Community Health Fair.

Children took rides on Okaloosa County Sheriff’s Office Posse horses on the green in front of the Community Center and hopped around inside an inflatable bounce house.

From booths staffed by local health providers, attendees received information on health-related topics ranging from personal wellness to assisted living and hospice care.

“It was a good steady pace this year,” Crestview Area Chamber of Commerce Health and Wellness Committee chairwoman Mary Beth Blanchard said. “We did quite a few blood pressure checks at our table.”

Blanchard’s committee organizes the annual event.

A highlight was North Okaloosa Medical Center’s introduction of its new robotic surgery system. On a demonstration version of the high-tech unit, residents tried to manipulated colored objects using the stereoscopic viewfinder.

“It was really awesome,” resident Denisse Cruz said after trying the machine.

Attendees paused to watch performances during the morning, including a debut by the Ten Talents Youth Theatre, which performed a scene from its upcoming production of “Aladdin.”

“They have a good operation going here this morning,” the Rev. Harry Tipton said as he paused to help himself to a give-away at M*A*S*H Medical Supplies’ booth.

“And I got fruit snacks,” Brayden Mallory, 5, added, after raiding the bowl at Crescent Park Village’s booth.

The annual health fair was sponsored by North Okaloosa Medical Center, Twin Cities Hospital, Fort Walton Beach Medical Center, Shoal Creek Rehabilitation, Gentiva Health Services, West Florida AHEC, SilverCrest Health and Rehab Center, Financial and Insurance Services and Crestview Urgent Care.

Email News Bulletin Staff Writer Brian Hughes, follow him on Twitter or call 850-682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: Community Health Fair combines important info with fun (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

Fresh 'Tuna' has everything a stage comedy needs, including a mullet (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

Dakota Blankenship and Alec West star as Pearl Burris and Vera Carp, among nine other roles, in “Greater Tuna,” opening Wednesday night.

NICEVILLE — “Greater Tuna,” opening  Wednesday night at Northwest Florida State College, has everything a rollicking stage comedy needs: fast pacing, fast costume changes, an unexpected death, drag roles, bigger-than-life characters, and one really serious mullet.

For a show performed through this weekend in Niceville, the latter is a particularly nice touch.

Director Clint Mahlie deftly guides his four talented cast members through a day in Tuna, Texas, where the hair is big and the minds are narrow.

It’s the sort of place where the Lions Club is considered too liberal and Connie Carp won the Tuna High School essay contest with a piece called, “Human Rights: Why Bother?”

Student actors Carla Von Kaenel, Dakota Blankenship, Lydia Phillips and Alec West portray 21 different characters in a spectacular cavalcade of costume and character changes.

NON-STOP LARFS

I have loved “Greater Tuna” for years, and worry that new productions just won’t give justice to Jason Williams, Ed Howard and Joe Sears’ rapier-like dialogue.

My fears were allayed when the lights dimmed in the Sprint Theater and Carla and Dakota burst onstage as DJs Arles Struvie and Thurston Wheelis, instantly establishing the raucous, in-your-face pace “Tuna” demands.

It’s prop comedy without the props. The gags cascade from one outrageous situation to the next, which the cast handles with confidence, as if playing four or five or six totally different characters is easy.

With such diverse characters, no actor’s better than any other. But to give Crestview student Alec credit, he gets the show’s best hair.

As ne’er-do-well Stanley Bumiller, his sulkiness should be patented. And his Vera Carp is statuesque in a Sarah Palin sort of way and his legs aren’t bad in those high-heels.

Dakota’s Pearl Burris is a scream, especially since everybody knows someone like her. Bless her heart, poor Pearl just can’t sleep well “knowing there’s no strychnine in the house.”

Carla as Arles Struvie at first threw me, used, as I am, to seeing the role done by a guy, but whaddya know, the character sure works swell as a girl, especially when she does those fluttery hand-fans.

Lydia, in her leather cowgirl outfit, is an awesome D.D. Snavely, whose used weapons emporium promises if one of her guns doesn’t kill, “it must be immortal.”

Her portrayal of P.T. Fisk, formerly Petey Fisk, as a stoner was also unexpected, but was amazingly effective.

I wish other theatrical troupes that did “Greater Tuna” with the usual two actors would see this production.

“Tuna’s” not supposed to drag out. Keeping it fast keeps it fresh, because as everyone knows, slow old “Tuna” really stinks.

Grab your cowboy boots, head over to the Mattie Kelly Center and don’t miss this laugh-filled visit to the third-smallest town in Texas. But leave your intellect at home.

“I don’t believe we have that in Tuna,” Bertha Bumiller, a.k.a. Carla, says.

WANT TO GO?

WHAT: Northwest Florida State College production of “Greater Tuna”

WHEN: 7:30 p.m. Oct. 22-25

WHERE: Sprint Theater, Mattie Kelly Arts Center, Niceville

COST: $15 adult, $10 youth 18 and younger, 1 free ticket for NWFSC students with ID from the box office only.

NOTES: Tickets from the Box Office, 729-6000 or online, www.MattieKellyArtsCenter.org.

Email News Bulletin Arts Editor Brian Hughes, follow him on Twitter or call 850-682-6524.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: Fresh 'Tuna' has everything a stage comedy needs, including a mullet (VIDEO, PHOTOS)

FINANICAL FOCUS: Heed message of 'Save for Retirement' Week”

You won’t see it on the calendar, and it doesn’t inspire any greeting cards, but National Save for Retirement Week is here again. The goal of this week is self-explanatory, but what does it mean to you? Are you vulnerable to the possibility of reaching retirement without sufficient financial resources? If so, how can you ease this risk?

Let’s look at the “vulnerability” issue first. How prepared you’ll be for retirement — or at least how prepared you think you’ll be — seems to depend, not surprisingly, on whether you are currently participating in a retirement plan such as a 401(k) or an IRA. Consider these statistics, taken from the Employee Benefit Research Institute’s 2014 Retirement Confidence Survey:

•Nearly half of workers without a retirement plan were “not at all confident” about their financial security in retirement, compared with only about one in 10 with a plan.

•36 percent of workers say they have less than $1,000 in savings and investments. Of this group, 73 percent said they and their spouse did not have a retirement plan, compared to just 11 percent of those with a plan.

Clearly, it pays to contribute to your 401(k) or other employer-sponsored plan, such as a 403(b) or 457(b). And, even if you do have a 401(k) or similar plan, you may want to consider funding a Roth or traditional IRA.

Besides contributing as much as you can afford to your retirement plans, what else can you do to help boost your retirement savings?

For one thing, try to control your debts. It’s not always easy, but try to consistently live within your means and make wise spending decisions. Every dollar you don’t spend on debt payments could be going toward your retirement savings.

While it’s essential that you save and invest for retirement, you can’t forget other objectives you may have, such as helping pay for your children’s college education. Of course, if you’re like the vast majority of people, you don’t have unlimited resources — so working toward two major financial goals at the same time can certainly be challenging. Nonetheless, a college education can still be a springboard to a successful career, so you may well feel that you should do everything within your power to help your kids through school.

How can you balance the two important goals of investing for your retirement and for your children’s college expenses? Your best move may be to start saving for college just as soon as possible — even when your children are quite young. By starting early, you’ll put time on your side, so you can put away smaller amounts each year than if you waited until the years right before your kids head off to school. Consider investing annually whatever amounts you can afford to a tax-advantaged college savings vehicle, such as a 529 plan.

By investing as much as possible in your retirement plan, managing your debt load and balancing your retirement goals with other key objectives, you’ll be honoring the message of National Save for Retirement Week. 

Joe Faulk is a Crestview financial adviser.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: FINANICAL FOCUS: Heed message of 'Save for Retirement' Week”

WSRE’s Wine and Food Classic announces Habaka in concert

PENSACOLA — WSRE and Gulf Power will present Habaka Kay Foster Jackson in concert, along with the Grand Bounty Reception and a live auction, during the 26th Annual Wine and Food Classic.

The reception begins at 6:30 p.m. Saturday; the show begins at 8 p.m. in the Jean & Paul Amos Performance Studio.

Habaka Kay Foster Jackson, also known by the one name — Habaka — is a Nashville-born, international recording artist who performs extensively in Europe.

The Wine & Food Classic weekend also includes the Southern Bounty Tasting on Saturday in Downtown Pensacola, and the Biscuits ‘n' Bubbly Brunch on Sunday at the Hilton Pensacola Beach Gulf Front.

Tickets for all three events are on sale at wsre.org/WineandFood. Proceeds support WSRE, a publicly funded television broadcasting channel.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: WSRE’s Wine and Food Classic announces Habaka in concert

EXTENSION CONNECTION: Easy ways to increase soil quality

Soil is a vitally important part of all of our lives.  It provides the foundation for us to build roads and houses.  It provides building materials for our homes and businesses.  It holds and provides nutrients for plant growth.

Some soils are better at holding nutrients than others.  There are three basic types of soils – sand, silt and clay.  Sandy soils tend to leach nutrients quickly.  Clay soils sometimes can bind nutrients too tightly.  Silt soils are intermediate between these two.  Of course, our soils are typically a mixture of these three types, making each soil very unique.

There is one major improvement that we can make in all soils that help increase our soil quality.  We can encourage the accumulation of soil organic matter.

Soil organic matter is the organic component of soil, consisting of three primary parts including small (fresh) plant residues and small living soil organisms, decomposing (active) organic matter, and stable organic matter (humus).

Soil organic matter is important because it:

•Improves soil fertility.

•Improves water holding capacity.

•Improves nutrient holding capacity.

•Improves biodiversity of microorganisms.

We can accumulate soil organic matter by:

•Using cover crops instead of allowing soil to sit uncovered for seasons.

•Soil test and apply fertilizers properly.

•Reduce tillage.

•Prevent topsoil erosion.

•Rotate crops and plant perennial forages on resting lands.

For more information about soil quality, you can give me a call at 689-5850 or email me at bearden@ufl.edu.

Jennifer Bearden is an agent at the University of Florida's Extension office in Crestview.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: EXTENSION CONNECTION: Easy ways to increase soil quality

Local officials briefed on Ebola virus

Ebola is a virus to respect, not fear, and its spread can be fairly easily contained if proper precautions are taken.

That's Dr. Ann Likos' message to representatives of Okaloosa County organizations most likely to come into contact with the disease, should it find its way here.

The “only real way” to get Ebola is from bodily contact, Likos recently told emergency workers, hospital administrators and representatives from Hurlburt and Eglin Air Force Base. It can be passed by coming into contact with vomit, diarrhea and sweat from an infected source, Likos, director of the state Department of Health’s Division of Disease Control and Health Protection, said.

“Distancing” is the simple best way to protect yourself.

Only one case of Ebola has been confirmed in the United States and of the 114 who came into contact with that person in Texas “most of them are at no risk," Likos said.

A person sick with Ebola will display flu-like symptoms of high fever, headache, nausea and upset stomach.

Importantly though, the victim would also have had have visited the West African countries of Guinea, Liberia, Nigeria, Senegal, Sierra Leone or the Democratic Republic of Congo in the past 21 days, health officials said.

If those two thresholds are met, the health department should be immediately contacted.

This article originally appeared on Crestview News Bulletin: Local officials briefed on Ebola virus

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